Rewire your brain and heal yourself with Mindful EFT (Emotional Focused Transformations) An Introduction

Part 2

What can you accomplish with Mindful EFT tapping?

Modern science shows us that tapping has some pretty spectacular effects. We now have proof that tapping

  • Destroys the neurological connections in the mind | body.
  • Restructures the brain.
  • Rewires neural pathways.
  • Causes the brain to record itself.
  • Changes the emotional attachments we have within us.

As you can imagine, this creates changes at a deep, unconscious, cellular level.

MEFT maintains that tapping breaks bad trances and creates a new trance of peace. The effectiveness of the tapping depends on the person and the depth of their trance. Some people get right into it. Others need to be prompted to move into their internal process.

All the tapping modalities cause chemical changes in the brain. Clients consistently report that they feel “lighter.” You can see their entire physiology lighten up with an onrush of feel-good endorphins.

Tapping creates changes that feel so natural that a client often forgets how bad things once were. That can only mean that profound changes have taken place in the person’s creative process.

MEFT liberates you from your problems, increases your freedom to choose, and makes life a lot more fun.

Proper MEFT tapping

The basic MEFT sequence is straightforward and generally takes you and your client only a few minutes to learn. With a little practice, you will be performing each round in under a minute.

While it is important to tap the correct area, you need not worry about being absolutely precise, as tapping the general area is sufficient.

It’s all in the fingertips!

The first thing to understand is that you will be tapping with your fingers. There are a number of acupuncture meridians on your fingertips, and when you tap with your fingertips, you are also likely to not only use the meridians you are tapping on, but also the ones on your fingers.

Traditional EFT has you tapping with the fingertips of your index finger and middle finger and with only one hand.

We recommend the use of four fingers because it allows you to access more of the acupuncture points. When you use all your fingers you will cover a larger area than just tapping with one or two fingertips, allowing you to cover the tapping points more easily.

Ideally, you will want to use your fingertips (not your finger pads), as they have more meridian points. However, if you have long fingernails you should use your finger pads.

The whole MEFT protocol

Step 1:      First energize your hands.

Step 2:      Think about (or recall) the problem or event in detail. Notice the emotions and specific images that support the problem. The more specific the problem you are targeting, the easier it will be for you to notice the change. Find each time one emotion in the problem or the physical sensation associated with the emotion to tap on. Notice how you know and feel the problem.

Step 3:      You will need to give the emotion/sensation a number on a scale from 0-10, before you start tapping. 10 being the worst/strongest it could be, zero being gone/nothing is there.

Step 4:      Start tapping with four fingers

  • Between the eyes,

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  • On the side of one eye,

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  • Under the eye and

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  • With the full hand on your collarbone

 

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As you focus on each point you are tapping say “Let it go, it’s safe to let (name the problem or feeling) go”, “it’s okay to let it (name the problem or feeling) go” or you can just say “let it go”.

Step 5: Hold your wrist, take a deep breath in, breathe out (loud) and say “Peace”.

While you say the word peace think of a peaceful memory, a memory where you felt good. Maybe a memory where you felt loved by someone or a pet. Make a picture in your mind of this memory. Really associate – step into the memory. I was always the same memory with the same picture for myself. Enjoy that feeling!

After each round of tapping (sequence 2-5), you will need to stop a minute and reevaluate the intensity of the problem. The intensity should come down by at least 1-2 points each round. The goal is to bring the intensity down to 0.

Step 6: Practice self-compassion.

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MEFT is about words and feelings (Film)

Words are only words? We are always giving meaning to them. A word to one person may mean one thing and yet something totally different to someone else. Why is that? Words stir up reactions that resonate within us.

Words are triggers, metaphors and symbols of how we perceive the world. It is our internal reaction that gives them power, not the words. Words represent our inner world and what we believe to be true. When you change the inner reaction to the word, you change your perception of the world!

You can only heal what you feel. So it’s important that you are open to your feelings because that is what you would like to change.

To name the feeling is helpful. Use this list any time you are having difficulty telling what you are feeling. Repeat these words out loud. Feel which words trigger you.

A list of negative feelings

Abandoned

Agony

Afraid

Alone

Angry

Anguish

Anxious

Apprehensive

Ashamed

Betrayed

Blame

Bored

Cheated

Concerned

Confused

Crazy

Crushed

Cornered

Defeated

Dejected

Depressed

Deprived

Desolation

Despair

Desperation

Devastated

Diminished

Disappointed Discouraged

Disgusted

Dismay

Disoriented

Distrust

Doubt

Dread

Drowning

Emasculated

Embarrassed

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Emptiness

Enraged

Envious

Exhausted

Fatigued

Fearful

Frustrated

Heartache

Heartsick

Heaviness

Helpless

Hesitant

Hopeless

Hostility

Humiliated

Hurt

Impotent

Imbalanced

Inadequate

Insecure

Incensed

Invalidated

Jealous

Lazy

Lethargic

Lonely

Loss and grief

Lost

Mad

Mean

Melancholy

Miserable

Mortified

Nervous

Numb

Offended

Out of control

Outraged

Overwhelmed

 

Powerless

Pressured

Punished

Put down

Guilt

Rejected

Rage

Resentment

Sadness

Self-conscious

Shaken

Shame

Shattered

Shut down

Sorrow

Stubborn

Suffering

Suspicious

Tempted

Tense

Terrified

Threatened

Tired

Tortured

Trapped

Troubled

Traumatized Uncertain

Unbalanced Unfeminine

Un-masculine

Weary

Weird

Worried

Worn out

Wounded

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You always get what you are focusing on!

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” Dalai Lama XIV

  • If you believe that your childhood determines your whole life, it will do.
  • If you believe that you need something (for example a new car, a house, a TV set..), you will get needy.
  • If you are focusing on what you do not have, you get sad or angry.
  • If you are focusing on what you don’t have and what you can’t do, you maybe get depressed.
  • If you are focusing on your fear of not getting enough, you will always find reasons that this is true.
  • If you are focusing on other people and that they always have more, or have better life chances, you will get greedy.
  • If you are focusing on all the good things in your life (get specific) you will feel happy.

If you are not sure what you’ve been focusing on, there’s a quick way to find out:

The results you’ve been getting are a reflection of what you believe and fear. You have given much energy and attention to these beliefs.

How do you figure out what you’ve been focusing on?

Identify areas where you’d like your results to change. These are results you don’t want. There may be some areas on your list you are not happy with. The first thing to do is:

Accept that your current results reflect your current reality.

Your current results are the reflection of your current beliefs and fears. This is your current view of the world. Once you accept and acknowledge things as being how they are, it’s much easier to change them to how you’d like them to be.

Acceptance and awareness of your current reality are the place to begin to shift that reality, by shifting your view of the world. It’s a hard job, but really important.

The power of what you don’t want

Many people become experts at what they don’t want and spend their lives getting what they don’t want. Their consciousness is focused on what they don’t want. And you now know: Because you are focusing on what you don’t want, you get this.

For example, don’t think about food. What do you think will happen when you suppress thinking of food? Test it and you will see you will think of food constantly. And that’s easily a problem if you want to be thinner.

If you have emotional or physical pain and you are telling yourself all the time: ”I don’t want this pain. I don’t like the pain. Go away.” Most probably the pain will resist and you will distract yourself with food, gambling, alcohol, ….

What we resist to feel will grow and you will get more of it.

Ask yourself now what you would like to change in your life. How do you want to feel different? Behave differently….

Make a list for yourself and then use the MEFT Protocol for goals.

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Tapping for Goals and get what you really want in life

Pay attention to your thoughts. Every time you catch yourself focusing on what you don’t want, stop and use the tapping skill to clear it out and focus on what you do want/have in that area.

If you want to get into a relationship, every time you find yourself feeling lonely because you’re not in one, stop, tap away that lonely feeling, and think about the relationships you do have (or have had).

Affirm that you are in a loving relationship that starts with yourself. The most useful emotion to access is when you’re focusing on what you wish to increase.

The protocol tapping for goals will show you a technique that is really powerful.

“I am grateful” is the most powerful prayer for creating what you do want. Worry is praying for what you don’t want.

Before you start, make a list of your goal(s). Look for goals you have power of. For example, you have no power over the weather and other people. We can only change ourselves. I personally don’t believe in a miracle pill, but we can change our attitude so that we can focus on what we really want. What prevents you from doing the things that are important for you?

Be as specific as possible. For example, if your goal is to become rich, write down how rich you would like to be in dollars. The tapping will influence your feelings, so that you are doing what you have to do. Just to wait that the universe or whoever sends you money is, in my opinion, nonsense. You have to move your mind and body and do things. Be aware of choices you will find. You will not pass your exam, if you don’t learn your stuff. You have to move yourself in the direction you like. If you like to meet new people, you have to move yourself outside your home. If you always do the exact things the same way, nothing will change. “You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.” Albert Einstein

Looking for opportunities with self-confidence and trust in yourself, so that you become the person you would like to be, that is the goal of mindful tapping.

Write down your goals now

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  1. First energize your hands

Pretend that you have already passed your exam, have your house, your weight, your body, your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, …..

How will you feel when you have reached your goal? Really associate (step into the future, imagine yourself really there, see what you will see, hear what you will hear and feel what you will feel) ‘The stronger you feel it the faster it goes’.

  1. Rate the feeling from 0-10.

While you are tapping

  • Between the eyes,
  • On the side of one eye,
  • Under the eye and
  • With the full hand on your collarbone

say: “Thank you God, or Higher Power, or Jesus, or Spirit, or Universe, or….. For blessing me, I am thankful.” Imagine as if your goal is already yours.

  1. Take a deep breath. Hold your wrist and say „peace“

Very important! End with the self-compassion exercise.

Do this exercise every day. You will see that “miracles” will happen.

Just do it, be persistent and curious. Look for a change every day. You will find it! 

Changing believes with MEFT

But how can you have the awareness about what you are thinking and feeling (that’s what you focus on) to shift it?

Look for the areas you would like to change, for example, your weight or any other habit you don’t like. What comes into your mind when you think of food, of smoking? What do you think of you being fat, a smoker?

Maybe you think of your grandma or mom saying to your food makes you strong, you have to smoke when you feel stressed,.. ?

Look for beliefs and write down whatever comes into your mind and please don’t judge yourself about what you are writing.

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Then ask yourself: “Is it really true what I’m thinking?”

Tap on the believing you don’t like or aren’t true.

Feel these false statements or the result out of it, and while you are tapping tell yourself.

  • Between the eyes,
    “Even if I have the belief (name it) and I see clearly the consequences, I love and accept myself.”
  • On the side of one eye,
    “I love and I accept myself even if I had these wrong beliefs and these feelings because of that”
  • Under the eye
    “And I choose to let these false and wrong beliefs go, and I let them go… I let them go”
  • And with the full hand on your collarbone
    “I choose to let these false and wrong beliefs go, I let them go… I let them go”
  • Hold your wrist and take a deep breath, breathe out, and say “Peace’!”

Do this for some rounds until you feel calm and secure. Then do the self-compassion exercise!

Getting to and working with core issues with MEFT

With MEFT it is possible to find the central, or core, emotional issues that contribute to the problem.

Core Issues are often formed in childhood as a belief, but can also be the result of a significant trauma like a car accident or sexual assault later in life.

As time goes by, these core issues can get buried beneath layer after layer of perceptions, justifications and protective devices, so they aren’t always easy to find.

Sometimes these core issues show up right away, but all too often, they are puzzles, hidden deep within the psyches and need probing and prodding before they display themselves. It needs courage to open yourself to be aware of what’s going on in your mind.

You can only heal when you are feeling it, hiding and distractions don’t help you. That will make every problem bigger.

If you want to work on that, the best practice is to work on every layer.

Take your time.

Imagine an onion. You can peel it layer by layer.

For this work awareness is necessary.

You have to realize what is really going on in your mind.

You can ask yourself, for example, when are you:

  • Afraid of rejection: Think of specific time(s) you have been rejected.
  • Claustrophobic: remember a time(s) when you were uncomfortable about being enclosed in a space.
  • Stressed at the job: Remember the times, you felt stress at work.
  • Not treated well by men: Remember the first time, or other times, that men didn’t treat you well.
  • Afraid of public speaking: Think of a time when you spoke in public and it didn’t go well or pretend that you talk.

If specific events are right in front of you, realize your thoughts and feelings without judging them. Accept the thoughts and feelings just like they are and then do with them (not against them!) the tapping procedure.

A lot of people find ways to cover up or rationalize emotional pain.

If you are afraid of doing this work with yourself, look for a practitioner who will help you. Skype sessions with me are also available.

Identifying the Problem with MEFT

You can use this protocol when you or your clients seem overwhelmed with emotions. It’ a good start for huge problems you have to work on.

First energize your hands.

Think about (or recall) one problem or event in detail. (Notice the emotions and specific images that support the problem).

Do a rating of how intense you feel it. Zero you don’t feel it at all, to ten – it’s really bad.

The ‘cut the tree metaphor’: Imagine an old tree in front of you, you want to cut it down and to plant something different in this place.

If you like to go rid of the roads you have to pull them out. Then and only then you can plant something else in this place. You have to pull out the roots. With the tapping routine, you will do that.

Tap the routine points

  • Between the eyes,
  • On the side of one eye,
  • Under the eye and
  • With the full hand on your collarbone

Focus on the feelings or memory while you are tapping, and feel your fingers, while saying; “I release and let go of:

  • All sadness’s
  • All fears all emotional traumas
  • All the anger
  • Resentment
  • Guilt
  • Judgments
  • Abandonments
  • Betrayals
  • Helplessness
  • Hopelessness
  • Feelings of no control
  • Rejections
  • Shame
  • Secrets and anything else that supports this feeling (s).

Let it all go. It’s safe to let it go. I allow myself to let it go”.

Hold your wrist and take a deep breath, breathe out, and say “Peace’!” (Think of your peaceful memory, really associate – step into the memory).

Re-check the problem and notice how it has changed.

Look for remaining emotional or physical reactions and test the problem and rate it from 0-10.

If there is still some problem, repeat the same process, but modify the affirmation as follows: Even though I still have some of this (name the problem or feeling), I deeply and completely accept myself. Example: Even though I still feel some of this frustration, I am ok…

Continue the process until you reach zero. Then do the self-compassion exercise.

MEFT for a quick feelings release

I use the following technique to release negative feelings. Feelings I don’t like. These feelings are not absolutely related to problems. For example, if I’m feeling bored, or hungry (sometimes I have hunger just because of a habit and you?) lonely, or you just feel something in your body. Feelings we resist will persist so don’t say “No” to the feeling. Just release them. Allow them to go.

First energize your hands.

  1. Identify the feeling and name it. If you have a problem, refer to the list.
  2. Notice how it feels and rate it from 0-10.
  3. While tapping says “Even though I have this…… I deeply and completely accept myself.” Or ‚”I’m okay.” Or “I totally love and accept myself”.

For each of the following energy points, repeating your phrase at each point:

  • Between the eyes,
  • On the side of one eye,
  • Under the eye and
  • With the full hand on your collarbone

Example: Even though I have this anger, feel the sadness, feel the greed to eat something…. I am okay.

  1. Think of “your” memory, your good feeling.
  2. Take a deep breath. Hold your wrist and say „peace“

Do as many rounds as you need to release the feeling completely.

Finally, do the self-compassion exercise.

 

Pain relief with MEFT – Working with chronic pain.

Most doctors recommend patients with pain to take medication and to distract themselves.

Do you remember that we can heal what we feel? That is true for emotional and physical pain. With MEFT we focus on our feelings around the sensations we are experiencing.

Talk about the pain as sensation. Don’t use the word at all. Just do it and you will experience the power of the words!

Several scientific experiments with acute pain have shown that tuning to sensations, is a more effective way of reducing the level of pain experienced when the pain is intense and prolonged than distracting yourself.

Look for belief and thoughts you or your client may have while experiencing the pain and write it down:

For example:

Do you deserve the pain? “I deserve the pain, because…”

Is the pain a punishment for guilt? “I did wrong and this is my punishment. I deserve to suffer.”

Is the pain there to tell you something about you? “I’m a bad person.”

Do you deserve a better life? “That’s the life I deserve.”

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The MEFT process for pain relief

First energize your hands.

  1. Identify the feelings, thoughts and or beliefs you have and name it (List above). If you can’t name the feelings and thoughts, you can name them as “all the feelings and all the thoughts”
  2. Rate the sensation (pain) from 0-10.
  3. While tapping says:

“Even though I’m thinking I deserve the sensation or I have done wrong and because of that I have these sensations… I deeply and completely accept myself.”

Or ‚ “even though I think that I deserve it I’m ok.”

Or “I totally love and accept myself”

On each of the following energy points:

  • Between the eyes,
  • On the side of one eye,
  • Under the eye and
  • With the full hand on your collarbone

Be curious and playful. You can’t do anything wrong, but you can release a lot of your pain.

  1. Think of “your” memory, your good feeling.
  2. Take a deep breath. Hold your wrist and say „peace“

Rate the sensation (pain) again. Do as many rounds as you need. Be persistent.

  1. End with the self-compassion exercise

Mental MEFT

“In the brain, imagining an act and doing it are not as different as they may seem.” Norman Doidge in: The Brain’s Way of Healing.

A scientist has discovered recently that when people mentally practice an instrument, they improve almost as much as when they play the instrument physically.

So it’s not a difference in your brain how you practice MEFT. You can do it in your mind and you will get results.

Do everything as described exactly as possible just in your mind. You don’t have to energize your hands, but the self-compassion exercise you can do easily in your mind as well. It works!

And you are able to tap anywhere you are.

Whenever a feeling arises, you don’t like so much: just tap in your mind.

This is possible because of our conscious mind. There is really no difference between really doing it and just doing it in our mind. Isn’t that great?

Working with clients

All the processes described, can be easily done with clients. Most important is that you work only with one feeling at a time when you work on a problem.

For example, your client wants to lose weight. There are many feelings associated with eating. Most of the people eat because they are feeling lonely, stressed, bored,….

For many people, eating is the only answer for every feeling they experience. You can start with the overall tapping. After that your client knows the procedure and then it’s helpful when you tap on every feeling associated with eating and food.

Please take the time for yourself to heal your wounds. Then you really know the process and you know what you are talking about. 

What can you do when MEFT isn’t working or the problem is getting worse?

People often leave a MEFT session feeling invigorated, alive and much lighter than when they started. On some occasions, however, they go in the opposite direction. It’s not uncommon for people to experience a negative reaction after (or during) an MEFT session, especially if you are tapping for yourself. Feelings such as anger, anxiety, uneasiness, sadness or even temporary worsening of the issue(s) might emerge. They are not side effects of MEFT, nor is there anything wrong with you.

There are several possible causes for these odd-feeling emotions you may experience during or after tapping. Here are some of them:

Sometimes there’s a reluctance to do, say goodbye for reasons that vary among different people. To change what’s become so familiar is disconcerting to some. I know it sounds strange but if you have had a feeling for a long time, you get used to it. It’s part of your identity and it can make you insecure when changes happen.

While in the process of clearing major traumas or issues with MEFT some people become anxious or fearful, sensing the possibility of living life with a different set of rules. They might feel like a fish-out-of-water as they begin to see life from a completely different perspective.

This is why the compassion exercise is so important. Doing something for ourselves sometimes feels strange. With this exercise you get a good feeling and get used to the idea that you have to put yourself first, because you are important.

Another cause for anxiety or fear during or after taping is that there may be an unconscious payoff for keeping the issues.

Some people financially compensate for a disability, while others may get emotional support with attention, sympathy or special favors as a result of their issues.

The most likely cause, however, for feeling unsettled after doing MEFT is that you simply haven’t reached the core issue yet. Sometimes getting close to a painful memory is difficult.

Perhaps you’ve peeled the first layer of your onion. You may be only partially into your issues and are stirring things up before completion.

If you don’t know what your core issue is when you start a session and you proceed to tap on the various aspects you do know about, you may end a session without finding the actual cause of your problem — the Core Issue.

For example, you may be tapping on an uncomfortable emotion or body sensation that is happening at the moment, such as rage or tightness in the throat. But you would only be addressing a symptom, not the main cause. Underneath that rage, a deeper core issue, such as “he never really loved me” or “my mother abandoned me” still needs to be addressed for full resolution.

When the core issue is not dealt with, it is like chopping off the green weeds in a lawn but never getting to the roots. Also, there might be many core issues around a particular issue and one session only dealt with one of the core issues, leaving more work to do.

Confusion, anxiety, headaches, anger, or sadness often mean that you’re simply not done with the problem or haven’t found the all-important core issue.

It is often hard to discover the core issues on your own. It is sometimes hard for us to see our own problems clearly. That is where a good practitioner can help. 

Why do we teach and practice Mindful EFT and why is it different?

Mindful EFT is simple to apply, easily remembered, works with people who cannot visualize very well, works with people without a memory of an issue, quickly transforms core issues, related traumas and limited beliefs, and you can easily do it mentally as well.

With Mindful EFT we are practicing self-compassion the key to lasting changes.

With Mindful EFT, instead of tapping all the meridian points like traditional EFT, you only tap between your eyes, the side of your eye, under your eye, your collarbone. Then hold your wrist, breathe deeply and say “peace.”   You also don’t have to do the “Even though…” and all the other scripts. Wait a little bit, in a little while I will explain the process in detail and you can also see a video.

What you say will vary, but if you are in a hurry, you can just imagine what is going on that is disturbing you and then just say, “let it go” at each tapping point and then after you say, “peace” you can evaluate the intensity again. You keep tapping until it is gone.

Let’s have fun. All the best for you

Birgit

 

… And if you have any questions, write a mail birgit@drzottmann.de
www.institut-drzottmann.de

 

At least I like to share with you a poem of Rumi.

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

The Mind Body Connection

Rewire your brain and heal yourself with Mindful EFT (Emotional Focused Transformations)

Part 1

Mindful EFT Disclaimer

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Introduction

You’ve heard about the Emotional Focus Transformation (EFT or Tapping) and now you’re wondering: Should I learn Mindful EFT (MEFT)? Will MEFT work for me? How will it improve my life?

Well, good news. The MEFT can improve your life and that of your clients. You can start using it today; and it will work for you. Also, I will teach you self-compassion.

The combination of tapping and mindfulness is very powerful. You will learn how to use MEFT/Tapping to deal with any issue, problem and feeling, such as: chronic pain, stress, depression, low self-esteem, weight, smoking, and drinking…

Don’t you think you deserve to feel good and enjoy life? You actually have one life and that is the only life you have.

You will learn the exact technique we use to:

  • Overcome low self-esteem
  • Reduce anxiety and help prevent anxiety attacks
  • Manage depression
  • Increase self-love and self-esteem
  • Reach your goals
  • Feel more in control of your emotions on a daily basis

The benefits and reasons why you should learn Mindful Emotional Focus Transformation are

  1. You can do it anywhere. At home, in your office, in the car, on the beach, while walking!
  2. You can do it by yourself. No therapy classes, counselors or tools needed.
  3. You can use it on for any problem or issue you have, ranging from weight issues to pain.
  4. You can teach and practice MEFT to clients to help improve their lives.

Get started with this course to learn how to start feeling more at peace, relaxed, happier and pain free immediately!

What people think about EFT

“EFT offers great healing benefits.” Deepak Chopra, MD

“EFT is a simple, powerful process that can profoundly influence gene activity, health and behavior.” Bruce Lipton, PhD

“EFT is at the forefront of the new healing movement.” Candace Pert, PhD

“EFT is easy, effective, and produces amazing results. I think it should be taught in elementary school.” Donna Eden

“EFT is destined to be a top healing tool for the 21st Century” Cheryl Richardson

“I frequently use EFT for my patients with great results.” Eric Robins, MD 

What can you expect to get from this course?

We will:

  • Enable you to be in tune with your feelings and appropriately transform their impact.
  • Give you the skills to effectively handle challenges with more clarity.
  • Teach you how to change by controlling your emotional and physical destiny.
  • Help you achieve profound changes and develop radically new outlooks on life.
  • Give you techniques for changing all areas of your life, beliefs, fears and attitudes that have limited your ability to be truly happy.
  • Show you that you can create positive desires, wishes, preferences, goals and values as well as change your negative limiting beliefs.
  • Show you how to “take control” in an uncontrolled world, and experience happiness under difficult and “impossible” conditions.
  • Illustrate ways to be honest and to become the person you like to be with.
  • Accepting yourself as you are now
  • Improving your life with self-compassion
  • Making wise choices and living a happy and successful life.

What are your requirements?

  • You are older than 20 years
  • You want to improve your emotional and physical well-being
  • You are interested in self-development
  • You want to learn about Mindful EFT

What will you learn?

  • What is energy healing?
  • What are meridians?
  • What is self-compassion and why is it important
  • How to energize your hands.
  • What is Mindful Emotional Freedom
  • Why you should use the Mindful Emotional Freedom
  • What Mindful EFT is used for?
  • How to use Mindful EFT on yourself.
  • What to do if Mindful EFT doesn’t work on the issue.
  • How to use Mindful EFT with clients.

 

History of EFT (Emotionally Focused Transformations)

EFT is a meridian-based energy therapy developed by Gary Craig from the landmark discoveries of Dr. Roger Callahan. It is a simple technique that often provides rapid relief from physical-emotional issues (e.g. Trauma, PTSD, Phobias, Grief, Anger, Guilt, Anxiety, Addictive Cravings, Nightmares, Abandonment, Fear of Public Speaking, Fear of Flying, Love Pain, Depression, Pain, Headaches and much more).

Gary Craig, a Stanford- trained engineer, reduced years of diligent research and endless trial and error down to one practical procedure.

Robert Smith evolved EFT. He calls his routine “Faster EFT”. This Faster EFT has the same results and it’s easy to learn.

Faster EFT we will teach you, addresses the entire mind/body system including what you think and how you process your thoughts, along with the body’s response. It is a self-empowering system that gives you control over your past, present and your future. It will show you how to design and transform your life right now. It is a universal healing system that can address virtually anything.

About Energy healing

Energetic Healing is an umbrella term for any therapy that manipulates the energy circuits in our physical bodies to regain balance and facilitate our body’s innate healing mechanisms. Some of the more well-known therapies that fall under the heading “energetic healing” include Reiki, Reflexology, Kinesiology, Thought Field Therapy, Acupuncture and EFT. Energetic healing practitioners are usually trained in a number of modalities and will combine these in their own unique way. Many combine intuitive skills with their practical and theoretical skills.

Energetic healing takes a holistic approach that looks beyond the physical to manipulating the energy systems (meridians, auric bodies, chakras) where the cause of the disease can be located.

Trauma, emotional and mental stress, false belief systems, physical distress, environmental stress, and other blocks to our personal growth can be stored in the energy fields of our bodies.

Energetic healing facilitates the healing process by clearing blocks in the energy fields, repairing and re-balancing the energy so that the body can move to its optimal level of balance from where it is able to access its inherent ability to heal itself.

Energetic healing can also help identify “issues” before they manifest as pain or as similar distortions in the physical body. It opens our consciousness to the areas we need to work through and heal in order to bring our lives into balance and to maintain health, harmony and vitality.

The Meridians

As an energy healer (by practicing Mindful EFT you are an energy healer), the meridians will be of central importance to you for yourself and as you work with your clients.

Meridians are energy channels ‘transporting’ life energy (Chi/Qi) throughout the body. If there are blockages in the system of meridians, you will experience a lack of energy supply to certain areas of the body.

Your energy flow affects how you feel, how you think, and the overall condition of your health situation. When the body’s life-force energy becomes blocked, various imbalances will result.

Acupuncture Meridians – Pathways of Chi Energy

Acupuncture meridians have many names. These names include Chinese meridians, energy meridians, and Chi meridians, just to name a few. These meridians carry the life force that vitalizes all life forms and allows them to flourish and grow. Different cultures call this life force by different names: Chi, subtle energy, Spirit, Prana and vital energy to mention just a few.

Similar to electricity, this energy is invisible to the human eye. However, experienced Chinese doctors can feel and trace these pathways of energy with their hands. About 5,000 years ago, they mapped these meridian lines. With this understanding, acupuncture was developed to balance Chi.

Think of these acupuncture meridians as streams or rivers flowing with energy. Like a river that provides life-giving water to its surrounding areas, these channels distribute revitalizing energy to the surrounding area of the body.

It is only because of the existence of this energy in our body that we can move, breathe, digest food… think and even feel.

Qi is composed of two kinds of forces: ‘Yin’ and ‘Yang’. A person remains in good health if there is harmony and balance between these two forces.

Sometimes, however, the flow of energy is disrupted. An overload of energy in the form of strong emotions and trauma can block the flow of Chi. It is like a surge of electricity going to your TV and causing a circuit to blow. Optimal health depends on energy consistently flowing; balanced, free, and uninterrupted throughout the entire body.

This is where Mindful Emotionally Focused Transformations Techniques (MEFT) comes in. Practicing MEFT will help clear energy disruptions in your acupuncture meridians, allowing energy to flow more freely to all parts of your body.

Acupuncture meridians can be found throughout the body. There are many acupuncture points along these meridians that are energy reservoirs where energy is collected over time. These meridian points can be stimulated with needles, physical pressure, or tapping to release or redistribute energy.

What is Acupressure?

Acupressure is an ancient healing art that uses the fingers to press key points on the surface of the skin to stimulate the body’s natural self-curative abilities. When these points are pressed, muscle tension is released and promotes the circulation of blood and the body’s life force to aid healing. Acupuncture and acupressure use the same points; acupuncture employs needles, while acupressure uses the gentle but firm pressure of hands. There is a massive amount of scientific data that demonstrates why and how acupuncture is effective. But acupressure, the older of the two traditions, was neglected after the Chinese developed more technological methods for stimulating points with needles and electricity. Acupressure, however, continues to be the most effective method for self-treatment of tension-related ailments by using the power and is used with MEFT.

Energy-Sensing Exercise (Film)

It can be very useful for the MEFT healer to develop more hand sensitivity.

Below is an effective exercise to help you with developing hand sensitivity. Most of the EFT practitioners don’t practice it, but we think that it’s crucial, if you would like to do energy healing with MEFT.

Exercise for Developing Hand Sensitivity

Sit comfortably with your back straight and tall. Allow your mind to quiet down. Spend a few minutes breathing deeply and comfortably into your belly. When your breath has become slow and even, then you are ready to go on.

Rub the palms of your hands fast together for 15-30 seconds.

Hold your hands out in front of you, palms facing each other.

Slowly bring your hands together, as close as you can without touching. Pay attention to any sensations you feel in your hands.

Slowly bring your hands apart again, so that they are separated by 6-12 inches.

Repeat this process several times, bringing your hands together and apart. Be slow and steady. As you do it, pay close attention to your palms. What are you experiencing? You may experience a sense of pressure or thickness between your palms; warmth; buzzing; tickling; pulsing; or other sensations. You’re feeling energetic!

What is Mindful EFT

EFT is a form of psychological acupressure, here combined with mindful techniques. EFT is based on the same energy meridians that have been used in traditional acupuncture to treat physical and emotional ailments for over five thousand years, however without the penetration of needles. Instead, tapping with the fingertips is used to input kinetic energy onto specific meridians on the head and chest while speaking positive statements.

This combination of tapping the energy meridians and voicing positive statements works to clear the “short-circuit” – the emotional block — from your body’s Bioenergy system, thus restoring your mind and body’s balance, which is essential for optimal health and healing. The mindful interventions will support this healing deeply.

Some people are initially wary of these principles that MEFT is based on – the electromagnetic energy that flows through the body and regulates our health is only recently becoming recognized in the West. Others are initially taken aback by (and sometimes amused by) the EFT tapping and affirmation methodology, whose basics you will learn here.

But keep in mind, EFT works and is, in combination with mindfulness interventions, most powerful.

This manual will provide an overview on how and where to tap, the proper affirmation techniques, and the mindful interventions so that you can begin using MEFT immediately to help yourself and others. It will also provide an introduction to some advanced MEFT techniques and principles you can employ.

Here are the things we believe according to MEFT that are true:

  • The saboteur or inner critic is just a part of us that is scared and is operating from old programs that worked in the past to keep us safe.
  • Our subconscious/unconscious mind will reliably do exactly as it has been programmed to do.
  • Human beings are motivated by internal reaction, which is driven by pain or pleasure.
  • Everything we do is motivated by our feelings.
  • The prevention of pain controls our life.
  • Our bodies are mirrors of our emotional experiences, beliefs, fears, and attitudes.
  • What you focus on you get.
  • What you believe to be true or not to be true powerfully shapes your perception of the external world.
  • You see what you already believe and beliefs create the actual fact.
  • You can change your beliefs.
  • The mind and body work as one because they are one. What affects the body also affects the mind, and what affects the mind also affects the body.
  • Memories seem real because they stimulate the body to feel their impact. They are written in the living cells of your brain and their meaning is subject to change.
  • Memories are not you.
  • Memories are flexible and changeable.
  • What you resist persists.
  • Pretending emotional issues or traumas don’t exist, pushing them away, or ignoring negative emotions supports their power to control your life.

Using Mindful EFT you identify the feelings that drive the behavior. You release it by tapping on it until the feelings have changed.

What is Mindfulness and what’s in it for you?

Though mindfulness has its roots in Buddhist meditation, a secular practice of mindfulness has entered the American mainstream in recent years, in part through the work of Jon Kabat-Zinn and his Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program, which he launched at the University of Massachusetts Medical School in 1979.

Jon Kabat-Zinn defines mindfulness as:

  • “Paying attention;
  • On purpose,
  • In the present moment, and
  • Non-judgmentally.”

Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment. When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts turn into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future.

Mindfulness also involves acceptance, meaning that we pay attention to our thoughts and feelings without judging them-without believing, for instance, that there’s a “right” or “wrong” way to think or feel in a given moment.

This we can achieve by having a beginner’s mind. Every breath we take is a new one. We are always starting new and fresh again. We can only live in the NOW, the only place where we make our decisions, where we choose who we are.

This sounds easy to me. But it is really not so simple.

Our mind is thinking constantly and that is totally normal. And the thoughts hop like a monkey from tree to tree.

The task of our brain is thinking. It has to ensure our survival and reproduction. And that’s it.

Our brain is not hardwired for happiness. Possible threats and the reproduction are the brain’s main focus. And because of that we are constantly looking for threats.

This was very important in former times. To not see the tiger was the death sentence. For the survival of the human beings this survival wiring of the brain was necessary and important.

In our society, it’s possible to see a threat everywhere. Everything can be a threat and that has implications on our whole body system. Just a look in the mirror is for many people a threat. Because there are instantly thoughts like. “How do you look today?… Your hair is so miserable…. And you’ve gained weight… and see all the lines under your eyes… you are getting old and ugly. You don’t have to ask yourself why you can’t find a man…..”

To be clear, it is totally normal to get lost in thoughts and to look for threats, we are normally not aware of. And if we have enough balance in our lives that is not a problem.

But if we are really good at it, that means we experience a lot of possible threats in the form of thoughts and we believe them, we are totally stressed and our body has difficulties to adjust. Most of the people don’t feel these threats. It’s a habit and we are on autopilot.

To change this habit, wired deep in our brains, to always constantly look for threats, we need mindfulness or awareness. We have to look at what we are thinking and feeling.

Watch your thoughts and feelings just for one minute. What are you feeling in your body, now, in this moment? What are you thinking now, if the thoughts in your brain are hopping around like monkeys?

The practice of mindfulness reduces heart rate, slows respiration, decreases blood pressure, lowers oxygen consumption, and decreases muscle tension.

It also

  • Reduces chronic pain,
  • Lowers levels of bad cholesterol,
  • Lowers blood levels of harmful stress hormones,
  • Alleviates symptoms of rheumatoid arthritis,
  • Improves sleep patterns,
  • Lowers levels of blood lactate (which is associated with anxiety), and it
  • Reduces the risk of heart and artery disease and stroke.
  • Practicing mindfulness also improves emotional health.
  • Research shows that regular practice has a powerful effect on depression as it alleviates loneliness, hopelessness, and despair.
  • It enhances the ability to think clearly.
  • You learn faster.
  • You are better at solving problems and are more creative and intelligent.
  • It increases the ability to pay attention to a rapid stream of information.

How can you change the body with MEFT?

What we think has a great impact on our body. Our body remembers everything we experience.

To show you how that work we will conduct an experiment.

If you don’t mind, let your eyes gently close as you take in a nice abdominal breath. Imagine or pretend that you’re at home in your kitchen.

  • Look around the room and pay attention to the sounds, the sights and the light. Listen to the sounds of the refrigerator…
  • Walk over to the refrigerator and as you do pay attention to your footsteps as you walk across the floor… You may or you may not hear your steps on the floor.
  • Open the door to the refrigerator… Feel the cool air as it spills out into your body. ….. Today, whether you normally have one or not, today there’s a lemon in your refrigerator…
  • Look at the lemon… Pay attention to its color as you reach in and take the lemon.
  • Notice the texture, the temperature, the size and the shape.
  • Now take the lemon over to a place where you would normally cut up fruits or vegetables…
  • Take out your favorite knife… Now slice the lemon… You may slice it lengthwise from end to end or down the center in small pieces.
  • You may have noticed the juice as it drips out on the cutting area… Reach down and take a slice and smell the fragrance… You may notice memories being created…
  • Now open your mouth and take a big bite into that lemon. Feel and taste the juices… Experience the increased salivation and notice the feeling at the corners of your jaw. Now swallow the lemon juice.
  • Open your eyes. What did you notice? What did you experience? What senses were stimulated?

Did you realize that something was happening in your body while hearing just words and seeing a mental image? This happens with every word, with everything we hear and see or just imagine.

Our believing system

In our unconscious mind are a lot of beliefs. Some of them are really good for us. For example: If I believe that I’m a lucky person I will focus more on what is good in my life.

But we have beliefs inside that are not helpful. Those ideas and experiences are what hold us back at the unconscious level, but it is not a character defect, it is just a program learned most often in the childhood. It was serving us well at the time we learned or experienced it because we survived in that environment.

The big problem comes when we start to judge and condemn ourselves because of them. These judgments and condemnations we create only add to the fire with self-blame, self-rejection, self-judgment, isolation, self-condemnation, guilt, and even shame.

It’s not only than that it’s necessary to open our hearts and practice self-compassion.

Open your heart – The power of compassion (youtube film)Selfcompassion

New research, according to Jeffrey Schwartz, shows that self-affirmation alters the brain’s response to health messages and leads to subsequent behavior change.. And to practice compassion is a kind of self-affirmation.

Compassion is defined as a deep caring for the pain of others, often accompanied by a desire to help.

Compassion is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves. Scientists have figured out that compassion and kindness are good for our health. “The neural net around the heart is an essential part of our thinking and our reasoning. Our individual happiness and our collective wellbeing depend on the integration and collaboration of both our minds and hearts.” These are words from James Doty a neurosurgeon.

One of the most consistent findings in the research literature is that greater self- compassion is linked to less anxiety and depression. Of course, a key feature of compassion is the lack of self-criticism, and self-criticism is known to be an important predictor of anxiety and depression. Compassion offers protection against anxiety and depression.

With compassion we strengthen the neural net around our heart.

A lack of compassion for oneself and others is a major cause of inner and relationship unhappiness. In terms of personal growth, if you were to just focus on making compassion your highest priority — both for yourself and for others — you would find yourself progressing toward happiness, peace and joy more rapidly than you can imagine.

With self-kindness we are supportive and understanding toward ourselves. Our inner dialogues are gentle and encouraging rather than harsh and belittling. This means that instead of continually punishing ourselves for not being good enough, we kindly acknowledge that we’re doing the best we can.

Moving into self-compassion takes time and practice.

Put your hands on your heart

Step 1 Think of yourself. Look at yourself in a mirror (maybe just in your mind) and say to yourself

  • May I be happy
  • May I learn to accept myself as I am
  • May I be healthy

Step 2 Think of someone you are grateful for, your family and/or friends. And then tell them:

  • May you be happy
  • May you learn to accept yourself as you are
  • May you be healthy

Step 3 Think now of the whole world. Of all the people on our planet and tell them

  • May all people be happy
  • May all people learn to accept themselves as they are
  • May all people be healthy

You will see that if you do this small exercise daily, you will change and the world around you will change as well.

You will get a different relationship with yourself. The voice of your inner critic will not be so loud anymore and you can easily allow yourself to change your feelings with EFT.

Rewire your brain and heal yourself with Mindful EFT (Emotional Focused Transformations) Part 2

 

How Hypnosis Works: The Mind Body Connection

What exactly is meant by the word “mind”?

It’s important to note that “mind” is not synonymous with brain.  In our definition, the mind consists of mental states such as thoughts, emotions, beliefs, attitudes, and images. The brain is the hardware that allows us to experience these mental states.

Mental states can be fully conscious or unconscious. We can have emotional reactions to situations without being aware of why we are reacting. Each mental state has a physiology associated with it—a positive or negative effect felt in the physical body. For example, the mental state of anxiety causes you to produce stress hormones.

Many mind-body therapies focus on becoming more conscious of mental states and using this increased awareness to guide our mental states in a better, less destructive direction.

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Mind-body medicine focuses on treatments that may promote health, including relaxation, hypnosis, visual imagery, meditation, yoga, and biofeedback.

Over the past 20 years, mind-body medicine has provided evidence that psychological factors can play a major role in such illnesses as heart disease, and that mind-body techniques can aid in their treatment. Clinical trials have indicated mind-body therapies to be helpful in managing arthritis and other chronic pain conditions.

There is also evidence they can help to improve psychological functioning and quality of life, and may help to ease symptoms of disease. You can’t imagine how it’s working?

The Lemon Experience or is it possible for you to increase salivation in your mouth willingly?

Sit down and increase the salivation in your mouth. It’s not working? Of course it isn’t possible for human beings to increase their salivation by will. Continue reading “How Hypnosis Works: The Mind Body Connection”

Hypnotic Trance Changes Brain Patterns and Activity

 

 

Hypnosis is a change of state, there must also be some type of change in the brain and brain patterns. And there must be a way of seeing this change too.

In 2016, Spiegel and a team of researchers decided to prove their suspicions.

Spiegel’s Study: Brain Activity And Functional Connectivity Associated With Hypnosis

The purpose of the study was to try to identify changes in brain activity during the hypnotic state.

According to the study’s abstract, the team knew that hypnosis was associated with “decreased default mode network (DMN) activity,” and that people who were highly hypnotizable showed “greater functional connectivity between the executive control network (ECN) and the salience network (SN).”

From a group of 547 people, Spiegel and his colleagues chose 57 subjects – 36 with high hypnotizability and 21 with low hypnotizability.

Both groups were subjected to a series of fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) scans under the same 4 conditions:

  • while resting
  • when recalling a memory; and
  • during two different hypnosis experiences guided by pre-recorded instructions

2008 Japan Tokio 5The results were fascinating.

Researchers noticed that 3 things were happening. Continue reading “Hypnotic Trance Changes Brain Patterns and Activity”

The Hunger Scale

Eat when you are hungry! Make yourself a hunger scale: 1 being “totally hungry” and 10 being “totally satisfied.”

You should eat when your hunger is between 3 and 4 on this scale and stop eating when your hunger is between 7 and 8. If you stop eating between 7 and 8, you will feel pleasantly full, but not bloated or stuffed like you would if you stopped at 10.

IMG_9962How long do you think you can live without food? You can live approximately 6 weeks without anything to eat. How long do you think you can live without drinking? You can live about 3 days without anything to drink. How long do you think you can live without air? You can live about 1 to 4 minutes without oxygen. We have a very strong urge to satisfy immediate hunger.

Continue reading “The Hunger Scale”

Hypnosis and Weightloss

Through weight loss hypnosis you’ll eat less of the foods that you are currently eating, and you will have an increased desire to move your body.*

When you don’t feel that “pressure” to keep eating beyond what might be normal or natural for you, you’ll find the pounds melt off and you’ll have an increased sense of energy and a general sense of well-being.

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How Hypnosis Can Help

Hypnosis literally empowers you to take charge of the thoughts and beliefs that are unconsciously guiding your every action and behavior with respect to food, diet, exercise and weight loss.

By tapping into the power of your unconscious mind losing the extra pounds and maintaining your desired weight is not only possible, but inevitable…

Your Relationship with Food

Our weight loss programs are based on the simple fact that if you are carrying excess weight and have been struggling with losing it, riding the roller coaster diet, trying many approaches with some or no success, your relationship with food is to blame.

The truth is: your thoughts, perceptions, and emotions are making you fat! You have tried the diet programs, you know what to do. Somehow, you just don’t seem to be able to get yourself to follow what you know to do.

This time you want to succeed; this time you want it to last. When you work with your mind and your heart and change your relationship with food, everything else falls into place.

You like to have a Skype session? Or do you like to meet me in Manhattan?
birgit@drzottmann.com

 

Seven pitfalls of toxic relationships

People need relationships with other people.

Accordingly, we are wired in our brain. But do we, as people need romantic love?

Helen Fischer, an anthropologist at the Kinsey Institute, states, “I came to realize that romantic love is a basic human drive,“

Her colleague Lucy Brown goes further and describes romantic love as a… “survival mechanism as crucial as the craving for water.”

When people love or are in love, they want to please.

This is first of all perfectly normal. We adapt to the social norms of our group and perhaps we want to be perceived as a tolerant, generous and successful person, as a beautiful person worth being loved by a partner.

Some people believe they don’t deserve love believing they are not worth another person’s time, care, and compassion. They think it’s not enough to be the way they are. They lack, for whatever reason, genuine self-confidence.

Out of the belief that they are not “good enough,” they can quickly create toxic-romantic, but also toxic-friendly, relationships through accepting special behavior from their partner. Relationships that do not allow the partners to grow, but are truly toxic to the mind and body, can make one sick in the long run.1987-1996 SpringGarden Street, Philadelphia

I have listed 7 pitfalls of toxic relationships below.

If you experience the following more than you experience pleasant interactions in your relationship, this does not allow for individual growth or growth in the partnership thereby causing more grief than good.

As often happens in life, it depends on the amount. Perhaps some of the behaviors described below occur infrequently and can be changed with insight. For other behaviors, such as physical violence, immediate action is required.

Only you can assume responsibility for your personal behavior and only you can change your behavior.

If your partner has self-worth problems, lacks empathy, or thinks in psychopathic ways, only he or she can work on those issues. Please visit my article about psychopaths in this blog to learn more about this topic.

Men are rarely perceived as victims of women yet men do suffer from toxic relationships as well. And unlike many women, men often have no circle of friends with whom they can discuss these experiences and are quickly overwhelmed with the experience of violent emotions. Continue reading “Seven pitfalls of toxic relationships”

10 Misconceptions about Hypnosis

Whether you are learning how to be a hypnotist or thinking about going to a hypnotist/hypnotherapist for help, it is important to have a clear idea of what hypnosis is as well as what it is not. Whether you are learning how to be a hypnotist or thinking about going to a hypnotist/hypnotherapist for help, it is important to have a clear idea of what hypnosis is as well as what it is not. These can cause people to resist going into hypnosis.

  • Hypnotists have special powersIMG_8734
  • A hypnotist has control over the hypnotic client
  • You are asleep when in a hypnotic trance
  • A hypnotist could make you do anything and/or say anything
  • Hypnosis is truth serum
  • Only weak-minded people can be hypnotized
  • During hypnosis, you can be controlled to do things against your will
  • You will become stuck in hypnosis if something happens
  • You are not hypnotized if you can hear the hypnotist
  • You’ve tried hypnosis in the past and it didn’t work

Hypnotherapists have special powers

A hypnotist is a normal person who eats, sleeps, feels happy and sad, and loses their car keys. There is nothing special or magical about them at all. Hypnotists are trained to help guide people into a hypnotic state. Continue reading “10 Misconceptions about Hypnosis”

Gender Differences as a Source of Communication Problems

Today I will give you some information about gender and different communication styles. Feel free to write a comment about it.

Gender-specific communication differences are often a rich source of conflict in romantic relationships. Women communicate to maintain relationships while men communicate primarily to transmit information or in order to obtain information and then use it to display intellectual prowess.

A woman, who talks to a man about everyday occurrences that he deems trivial, is less interested in the actual exchange of information and more interested in how this exchange of information can help intensify the relationship. When the man misunderstands the woman’s intentions and consequently will not participate in a conversation that he find useless, he hurts her feelings and damages the relationship.

Women often ask men questions in order to express their interest in the man and simultaneously keep the conversation going. Women have a stronger relationship orientation and this is evidenced by their willingness to ask more personal questions than men. Continue reading “Gender Differences as a Source of Communication Problems”

Eating Habits

 

 

 

 

 

One of the most important eating lessons we are taught as children is that we must never leave any food on our plates – that we must finish all our food at all costs. Did your parents tell you this? In Germany, children were told that the people in Africa would starve because they didn’t eat everything that was on their plate. Unhealthy eating habits are the result

The goal of that education is not bad at all: children should learn to appreciate food and to honor it. As a child, I remember that I only got dessert when I had licked the plate clean. When we “ate up” we were good children and pleased our parents. With those experiences of the past, a lot of mothers in Germany often eat what their children leave on their plates; they eat all the leftover food. But I know that is not only a problem of German mothers. The consequences of this behavior are obvious: it’s a very, very good way to gain weight and to get fat. Continue reading “Eating Habits”