Seven pitfalls of toxic relationships

People need relationships with other people.

Accordingly, we are wired in our brain. But do we, as people need romantic love?

Helen Fischer, an anthropologist at the Kinsey Institute, states, “I came to realize that romantic love is a basic human drive,“

Her colleague Lucy Brown goes further and describes romantic love as a… “survival mechanism as crucial as the craving for water.”

When people love or are in love, they want to please.

This is first of all perfectly normal. We adapt to the social norms of our group and perhaps we want to be perceived as a tolerant, generous and successful person, as a beautiful person worth being loved by a partner.

Some people believe they don’t deserve love believing they are not worth another person’s time, care, and compassion. They think it’s not enough to be the way they are. They lack, for whatever reason, genuine self-confidence.

Out of the belief that they are not “good enough,” they can quickly create toxic-romantic, but also toxic-friendly, relationships through accepting special behavior from their partner. Relationships that do not allow the partners to grow, but are truly toxic to the mind and body, can make one sick in the long run.1987-1996 SpringGarden Street, Philadelphia

I have listed 7 pitfalls of toxic relationships below.

If you experience the following more than you experience pleasant interactions in your relationship, this does not allow for individual growth or growth in the partnership thereby causing more grief than good.

As often happens in life, it depends on the amount. Perhaps some of the behaviors described below occur infrequently and can be changed with insight. For other behaviors, such as physical violence, immediate action is required.

Only you can assume responsibility for your personal behavior and only you can change your behavior.

If your partner has self-worth problems, lacks empathy, or thinks in psychopathic ways, only he or she can work on those issues. Please visit my article about psychopaths in this blog to learn more about this topic.

Men are rarely perceived as victims of women yet men do suffer from toxic relationships as well. And unlike many women, men often have no circle of friends with whom they can discuss these experiences and are quickly overwhelmed with the experience of violent emotions. Continue reading “Seven pitfalls of toxic relationships”

Gender Differences as a Source of Communication Problems

Today I will give you some information about gender and different communication styles. Feel free to write a comment about it.

Gender-specific communication differences are often a rich source of conflict in romantic relationships. Women communicate to maintain relationships while men communicate primarily to transmit information or in order to obtain information and then use it to display intellectual prowess.

A woman, who talks to a man about everyday occurrences that he deems trivial, is less interested in the actual exchange of information and more interested in how this exchange of information can help intensify the relationship. When the man misunderstands the woman’s intentions and consequently will not participate in a conversation that he find useless, he hurts her feelings and damages the relationship.

Women often ask men questions in order to express their interest in the man and simultaneously keep the conversation going. Women have a stronger relationship orientation and this is evidenced by their willingness to ask more personal questions than men. Continue reading “Gender Differences as a Source of Communication Problems”

Eating Habits






One of the most important eating lessons we are taught as children is that we must never leave any food on our plates – that we must finish all our food at all costs. Did your parents tell you this? In Germany, children were told that the people in Africa would starve because they didn’t eat everything that was on their plate. Unhealthy eating habits are the result

The goal of that education is not bad at all: children should learn to appreciate food and to honor it. As a child, I remember that I only got dessert when I had licked the plate clean. When we “ate up” we were good children and pleased our parents. With those experiences of the past, a lot of mothers in Germany often eat what their children leave on their plates; they eat all the leftover food. But I know that is not only a problem of German mothers. The consequences of this behavior are obvious: it’s a very, very good way to gain weight and to get fat. Continue reading “Eating Habits”